Death and the Adolescent

Death and the Adolescent: A Resource Handbook for Bereavement Support Groups in Schools

Grant Baxter
Wendy Stuart
Copyright Date: 1999
Pages: 192
https://www.jstor.org/stable/10.3138/9781442673755
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    Death and the Adolescent
    Book Description:

    This manual provides information, guidelines, and suggestions for parents, teachers, and other caregivers in helping teenagers who have lost a parent, sibling or close friend through death.

    eISBN: 978-1-4426-7375-5
    Subjects: Education

Table of Contents

  1. Front Matter
    (pp. i-viii)
  2. Table of Contents
    (pp. ix-x)
  3. Preface
    (pp. xi-2)
  4. 1. An Overview
    (pp. 3-18)

    This chapter will familiarize the reader, in brief, with the terminology of grieving and griefwork as well as some of the areas that are helpful to consider before beginning a bereavement group.

    It is generally accepted that the termgrievingrefers to an individual’s physical and emotional loss, and describes the way he or she will experience that loss.Mourningis the way bereaved people express their feelings of grief, which depends upon factors such as one’s religion and culture. In other words, mourning indicates the process which occurs after a loss, a process also called griefwork because mourners must...

  5. [Illustrations]
    (pp. None)
  6. 2. Forming a Group
    (pp. 19-54)

    This chapter focuses on the grief groups themselves. It first offers, in brief, some of the theory associated with grief counselling and the stages of group dynamics. The bulk of the chapter takes the reader step by step through the ten sessions that comprised one primary adolescent support group, including sample exercises and detailed responses from group members. Readers are encouraged to use it as a guide towards creating their own unique adolescent bereavement groups.

    It is important, once again, to distinguish between the normal grief process – one that allows counsellees to complete the normal grieving tasks within a...

  7. 3. Common Problems
    (pp. 55-59)

    This chapter illustrates some of the problems faced by bereaved adolescents – problems that have become clearly observable as groups have progressed.

    Health and physical well-being are affected by bereavement, and some common complaints are disturbed sleeping and eating patterns (not eating, eating too much, and waking up several times a night). Bereaved adolescents sometimes will believe they are suffering from the same disease that killed their loved one, and they can experience and ‘feel the pain’ of the deceased. They also often suffer from headaches and general malaise, and want to miss school and stay at home to recover....

  8. 4. Case Studies: Grieving Special Losses
    (pp. 60-68)

    The following case studies illustrate some of the common themes/problems experienced by grieving adolescents.

    The mother of a student accidentally killed coming home from school could not come to terms with her grief. Her son had become a hero in her eyes. Three years after his death, everything in his room was exactly the same as the day he died; no one could touch anything in the room or even enter it without the mother’s permission. She also slept in her son’s bed. She had forgotten that her son had been simply a normal, fourteen-year-old student. His two older brothers...

  9. 5. Ways Schools and Parents Can Assist
    (pp. 69-85)

    One does not have to be a professional counsellor to help bereaved adolescents. Schools can help by reaching out to the communities they serve and being prepared to help when required. There is no substitute for the caring support of a young person’s family members, but neither is there a substitute for the support of warm, sympathetic individuals in our schools, who try to ‘be there’ for the grieving teenager.

    Let the student know you are aware of the death in his or her family, or of a friend.

    Let the student know that you understand how painful or difficult...

  10. Epilogue
    (pp. 86-88)
    Cory

    I find myself thinking about yesterday.

    When we were together.

    ‘Forever together,’ we said.

    When we would talk,

    Or,

    When we would just stare.

    When we would dance,

    Or,

    When we would just watch others.

    When we would sing,

    Or,

    When we would just listen.

    When we would laugh,

    Or,

    When we would just smile.

    When we would kiss,

    Or,

    When we would just hold each other.

    Memories of yesterday,

    Are all that remain.

    When I sit by myself and think,

    Or,

    When I just cry....

  11. Appendix 1: Religious Beliefs and Funeral Practices
    (pp. 89-95)
  12. Appendix 2: Research with Bereaved Teenagers
    (pp. 96-105)
  13. Appendix 3: Articles
    (pp. 106-113)
  14. Appendix 4: Community Resources
    (pp. 114-116)
  15. Selected Bibliography
    (pp. 117-120)