Being a Parent

Being a Parent: Unchanging Values ina Changing World

Karl S. Bernhardt
edited by David K. Bernhardt
Series: Heritage
Copyright Date: 1970
Pages: 190
https://www.jstor.org/stable/10.3138/j.ctt15jjdj1
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    Being a Parent
    Book Description:

    This volume brings together some of Dr. Bernhardt's articles. It examines all aspects of child-rearing: the importance of the home and the family, and the influence on the child's development exerted by both the home and the school.

    eISBN: 978-1-4426-5687-1
    Subjects: Sociology

Table of Contents

  1. Front Matter
    (pp. i-vi)
  2. Table of Contents
    (pp. vii-viii)
  3. Foreword
    (pp. ix-x)
    MARY L. NORTHWAY

    Being a parent in the seventies is a challenging responsibility. It has been in any era. However the world and life patterns have been changing so rapidly that parents are confused about their role and their duties, and even question their own significance.

    Karl Bernhardt has much to say to parents of the seventies: though times have changed, the fundamental values of human relationships have not. These still form the roots of personality growth. Children still need parents, for it is through these close early relationships that the beginnings of humanness are established; they still need guidelines for patterns of...

  4. Preface
    (pp. xi-2)
    DAVID K. BERNHARDT
  5. Chapter 1 Introduction
    (pp. 3-17)

    “The child is father of the man”¹ and the parents of the child have a great deal to do with this development.

    The articles in this collection were all written for parents in an effort to help them with this difficult task. In them, Karl Bernhardt developed his philosophy about the nature of the child as a bundle of potentialities and about the important role that parents and other significant adults play in developing a healthy child. An important key to the interchange between parent and child is consistency of approach. Discipline must be logical with consequences following from the...

  6. Chapter 2 The Home and the Family
    (pp. 18-31)

    One of the most important factors in Karl Bernhardt’s philosophy is the key role of the home in the development of the child. Throughout the articles in this section the pervasive tone is that of a democratic home in which each member of the family is accepted as an individual and in turn accepts his share of responsibility for the smooth running of the whole group.

    Nearly everyone belongs to two families – the one into which he was born and the one he helps to establish. What happens in the first determines to a large extent the success of the...

  7. Chapter 3 The Parents
    (pp. 32-43)

    The key to any successful scheme of discipline for the child is the role of the parents. In this chapter Karl Bernhardt emphasizes the importance of both mother and father in the family situation. He also outlines the values of a democratic atmosphere in the home. Parental responsibilities are not easy and the parent should not be discouraged by the many setbacks.

    Being a good parent is a real challenge for it is something that does not just happen. It requires effort, study, and a number of attitudes and personality traits which can be cultivated. It takes love, patience, clear...

  8. Chapter 4 The School
    (pp. 44-62)

    The second great influence on the child’s development is the school. How can the school and the home best be co-ordinated in order to maximize the benefit to the child? What should the role of the parent be with respect to homework? How far should the child go in the educational system? These are some of the questions discussed in the articles in this chapter.

    Home and school – two great institutions with the same goal. Both are trying to achieve the same end – the production of happy, well-adjusted adults. There should be no conflict between home and school, and for...

  9. Chapter 5 Development Through the Years
    (pp. 63-80)

    Each stage of development has its own special problems. It is important for all parents to understand the different problems associated with the advances of the child towards maturity. In the articles in this chapter attention is successively focused on the first five years of life, the first years of school, and the adolescent years.

    It has been said many times that the first five years of an individual’s life are the most important because what happens then determines to a great extent what may happen later on. Whether this is true or not it is certainly true that these...

  10. Chapter 6 Discipline
    (pp. 81-105)

    Of the many topics covered over the years in the articles by Karl Bernhardt the three which received the most parental interest were discipline, character development, and sex education, the subjects of this and the next three chapters. Perhaps the most discussed topic in Karl Bernhardt’s articles is that of discipline. A complete exposition of his approach to and philosophy of discipline can be found in his 1964 bookDiscipline and Child Care.

    In this chapter parts of a number of articles written throughout the years on this important subject have been assembled. The last section is from an article...

  11. Chapter 7 Discipline Problems
    (pp. 106-125)

    Any philosophy of discipline will seem impressive when everything is going well. It is, however, when the pattern breaks down and the children misbehave that the parents and the philosophy are tested.

    The articles in this chapter outline the necessity of routines and consistency and then discuss what parents should and should not do at difficult times, mealtime and bedtime, for example. Such problems as breaking annoying habits, sibling rivalry, and the submissive child are also examined.

    One of the most important problems for the parents of an infant is the establishment of a routine. There are at least three...

  12. Chapter 8 Character Education
    (pp. 126-143)

    In a time of moral uncertainty and change there seems to be no question more pressing for parents than the development of moral values in their children.

    Philosophers (and others) have argued for centuries about the origin of character and ethics. Most parents want their children to be “good” and to grow up to be “good” men and women. Character is indeed a fundamental concern of parents. But what is good character and how does it develop?

    Research has as yet provided only partial answers to these questions. Studies have thrown some light on how character develops but what constitutes...

  13. Chapter 9 Education for Family Life
    (pp. 144-151)

    This chapter not only examines the question of sex education (a far more controversial topic when Karl Bernhardt dealt with it than it is today) but also looks at the questions of training for responsibility, learning to manage money, and training in work habits.

    Nearly everyone knows two families well – the one he grew up in and the one he helps to establish. The education received in the first will help to determine the management of the second. It is becoming increasingly clear that the factors which govern success or failure in marriage and family life have their beginnings in...

  14. Chapter 10 Feelings and Emotions
    (pp. 152-161)

    Most of us behave as though emotions were hardly respectable. Yet emotions are as much a part of human nature as breathing or thinking. What is more, emotions can be a very valuable part of an individual’s approach to the problems of everyday living.

    For a long time now society has considered emotion to be a sign of weakness and has exerted pressure on people to hide it. Hence, without realizing very clearly what they are doing, most parents try to train their children to stifle their emotions. For example, tears are thought of as childish, something to be outgrown...

  15. Chapter 11 Leisure Time
    (pp. 162-175)

    Karl Bernhardt explores in this chapter the many activities available for the leisure time of the child. Both solitary activities and activities for the family and the peer group are discussed. Today more than ever before it is important for the child to learn at an early age how best to use his leisure time. Closely related to this topic is the article in chapter eight entitled “Influences – good and bad.”

    School’s out! To some parents this means the bother and nuisance of looking after the children all day. To others it means family fun. Parents are pretty evenly divided...

  16. Chapter 12 Mental Health
    (pp. 176-181)

    One of the aims of all the articles in this book is the development of positive mental health in the developing child, and one important factor in this development is mentally healthy parents. In this final chapter, Karl Bernhardt focuses on the development of positive mental health and offers a number of suggestions for achieving it.

    We have learned to manage nearly everything in our world but people. Our progress in learning to manage the physical features of our environment has been stupendous, but we seem to have failed to make a corresponding advance in our methods of managing human...

  17. Bibliography
    (pp. 182-187)
  18. Index
    (pp. 188-189)
  19. Back Matter
    (pp. 190-190)