A Widow's Tale
A Widow's Tale: 1884-1896 Diary of Helen Mar Kimball Whitney
Charles M. Hatch
Todd M. Compton
Introduction, Notes, and Register by Todd M. Compton
Series: Life Writings of Frontier Women
Copyright Date: 2003
Published by: University Press of Colorado,
https://doi.org/10.2307/j.ctt46nxkr
Pages: 908
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A Widow's Tale
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Volume 6, Life Writings of Frontier Women series, ed. Maureen Ursenbach Beecher Mormon culture has produced during its history an unusual number of historically valuable personal writings. Few such diaries, journals, and memoirs published have provided as rich and well rounded a window into their authors' lives and worlds as the diary of Helen Mar Kimball Whitney. Because it provides a rare account of the widely experienced situations and problems faced by widows, her record has relevance far beyond Mormon history though. As a teenager Helen Kimball had been a polygamous wife of Mormon founder Joseph Smith. She subsequently married Horace Whitney. Her children included the noted Mormon author, religious authority, and politician Orson F. Whitney. She herself was a leading woman in her church and society and a writer known especially for her defense of plural marriage. Upon Horace's death, she began keeping a diary. In it, she recorded her economic, physical, and psychological struggles to meet the challenges of widowhood. Her writing was introspective and revelatory. She also commented on the changing society around her, as Salt Lake City in the last decades of the nineteenth century underwent rapid transformation, modernizing and opening up from its pioneer beginnings. She remained a well-connected member of an elite group of leading Latter-day Saint women, and prominent Utah and Mormon historical figures appear frequently in her daily entries. Above all, though, her diary is an unusual record of difficulties faced in many times and places by women, of all classes, whose husbands died and left them without sufficient means to carry on the types of lives to which they had been accustomed.

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  1. Front Matter
    Front Matter (pp. i-iv)
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  2. Table of Contents
    Table of Contents (pp. v-vi)
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  3. Foreword
    Foreword (pp. vii-viii)
    Maureen Ursenbach Beecher
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    Helen Mar Kimball Whitney has been known to readers of Western history and literature through her memoirs published initially in The Woman’s Exponent and recently compiled in A Woman’s View: Helen Mar Whitney’s Reminiscences of Early Church History.¹ But her published accounts end before that point designated by many a woman as the end of her life’s significance: the death of her husband. “After that I just chored around” was a not unusual attitude expressed by widows, dismissing the possibility of significant experience in subsequent years.

    Of all the “frontiers” women must confront—geographical, material, cultural, emotional—widowhood can be...

  4. Preface
    Preface (pp. ix-xiv)
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  5. Introduction
    Introduction (pp. 1-36)
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    Helen Mar Whitney’s diary begins with the final sickness and death of her husband, Horace Whitney, in 1884, continues until a month before her own death in 1896, and thus records her entire widowhood. It is one of the most complete documents of a woman’s daily life in Utah history and compares well with the classic diaries of Patty Sessions and Emmeline B. Wells in its fullness, frankness, and importance. Helen Mar was a leading woman in nineteenth-century Mormonism. She was the daughter of First Presidency counselor Heber C. Kimball and had also been one of the wives of Church...

  6. Helen Mar Whitney’s Family
    Helen Mar Whitney’s Family (pp. 37-42)
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    Helen Mar’s second husband, Horace Kimball Whitney, 1823–1884, married her for time on February 3, 1846, in the Nauvoo Temple, just after standing proxy for Joseph Smith, her deceased first husband, in a marriage for eternity. Helen was thus Horace’s “proxy wife,” and her children with him were viewed as sealed to Joseph Smith for eternity, not to Horace. Orson wrote of Horace, “Gifted with a capacious and retentive memory, he inherited and acquired a taste for learning that lasted through life.” “Though a charming conversationist, with sparkling wit and ready pen, he shunned publicity and was without ambition...

  7. 1884: Horace Has Spent a Dreadful Night
    1884: Horace Has Spent a Dreadful Night (pp. 43-60)
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    A diary kept by Helen Mar Whitney commenced June 16th 1883, 2nd book.²

    Wed ^Nov^ 12th. 1884. Horace wished to be fixed in his chair last evening, at an early hour & went to sleep. Spent as good a night as usual—was ready for breakfast when I came out of my room this morning. I had a good nights sleep after drinking hop tea these two evnings. Woke early after a wakeful spell dropt to sleep & was thus late to rise. I felt very slim for most of the forenoon, but got better, & have ^done^ more work than usual, have...

  8. 1885: Oh! How I Feel My Loss—My Widowhood
    1885: Oh! How I Feel My Loss—My Widowhood (pp. 61-128)
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    Thursday Jan 1st 1885.¹ I’ve sat alone nearly all day writing a letter to my Charley and reading. Orson ^& wife^ went fast meeting before I was up. Mary K. came ^in to^ me toward night. ^also^ Sister Cravath² and Orson and wife, and little Racie—then Mary W. came in. My head was aching from using my eyes so steadily all day but I could not sit idle when alone. I bandaged my head with wet cloth & flannel. It gave relief, & I wrote till late in the evening on my article for the News. Every one is gone but...

  9. 1886: It Seemed Like a Dream That I Must Awake From
    1886: It Seemed Like a Dream That I Must Awake From (pp. 129-212)
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    Friday, January 1st, 1886.¹ Spent a quiet New Years ^day^ No one called here but Wm Kimball. He desired me to write to Sol, about some matters pertaining to the family grave-yard on the hill Charley brought some Theatre tickets—sent two—for Mattinee—to ^his cousins^ Geene & Vilate Kimball. No one wanted the 2, for this evening. I invited Helen V. Kimball to go with me. The weather is now cold enough to satisfy any one—A little snow fell yesterday, and last night—Lillie is feeling better spirits to day—She requested me to administer to her after...

  10. 1887: I Woke Myself Sobbing Three Times
    1887: I Woke Myself Sobbing Three Times (pp. 213-276)
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    Saturday—January 1st, 1887¹

    Bright, beautiful day, with the exception of an occasional cloud and the weather ^is^ mild as Spring, scarcely any snow only where the sun cant shine. Flod offered me a ticket to the Matinee but am not strong enough to go. She gave it to Helen, & Lillie one also I offered to take care of Helen’s baby & let her go, which I found a pretty good after noon’s job, and tried my strength considerably—I’ve not been so well since taken sick—the 9th of last month—Mrs Paton came, & being poorly, staid all night—

    Sun....

  11. 1888: This Valley Is Covered with Thick Fog Today—Very Dreary
    1888: This Valley Is Covered with Thick Fog Today—Very Dreary (pp. 277-338)
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    Sunday—New Year—1888¹—A very quiet day—No callers but Mrs Talbot, who came for Gennie, & George’s father & brother in law—Will Calder²—Hen & Flod, & Sister Parramore. After staying awhile Hen & Flod went to see Gen. taking along the nurse to see her & baby. I told Gen. & Mrs Talbot that there must be a Hack got if Gen went from here—Mrs. T. agreed with me but she had no money. I gave Gen a dollor & sent for a Hack on the corner, which was at the doar in a few moments—Mrs T. left her horse & buggy here...

  12. 1889: A Beautiful White Coffin Held the Little Lamb & All Pronounced Him Beautiful
    1889: A Beautiful White Coffin Held the Little Lamb & All Pronounced Him Beautiful (pp. 339-387)
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    1889.—² New Years day, & a pretty sick one for me Had a chill from going into the other room—so cold—Sol came & spent quite a while & took dinner in George’s—Lill & I invited, but I was too sick to eat much. The eclipse came about that time—Sol & George administered to the baby who is still quite sick. My head terible.

    Wed. 2nd. Was too sick to get up, but had to as baby was so sick & no one to take my place. Lill felt pretty bad—had worse chills & more of them

    Thur. 3d. So bad couldnt get...

  13. 1890: A “Liberal” Gang of the Scum & Boys Passed Up Our Street
    1890: A “Liberal” Gang of the Scum & Boys Passed Up Our Street (pp. 388-427)
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    Wednesday—New Year ^1890—^.² Slept in my ^west room^ Hent some better, Still snowing & lots of sleigh-riding—My head ached and felt quite poorly after doing my work, but after eating ^dinner^ & drinking cup of tea felt better, & wrote a little.

    Thur. January 2nd. Fast-day—have kept it, also Hent—though ^she’s^ weak from sickness—We’re having snow plenty.

    Fri. 3d. Feel well. weather cold—Men come to work at cannal, covered it by my gate—dirt been against it so it couldn’t be opened for some time–

    Sat. 4th. Blacked parlor stove, & swept—used up for it, had...

  14. 1891: E. M. Wells Came to See Us, & the House, at Evening—Thought It Lovely
    1891: E. M. Wells Came to See Us, & the House, at Evening—Thought It Lovely (pp. 428-483)
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    Thurs. Jan. 1st ^1891^.¹ Spent at Flod’s—all went but Gen & family—children not fit to go out. Orson, & Zine, Josh, Mary Jane, & Latie were there & Sister Dinwoody’s family—Weather pleasent. Troops left here this morning—off to the Indian war—They have wiped out three of the troops sent against them—They will learn that it is “Cheeper to feed Indians than to fight them”—As Brigham Young decided many years ago. A year ago the Tribune Off. was burned down This morning—the New Year—^Some of^ the troops placed to watch the Mormons, left for other parts...

  15. 1892: We’ve Got to Do Something to Keep Ourselves Out of Debt
    1892: We’ve Got to Do Something to Keep Ourselves Out of Debt (pp. 484-526)
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    Fri. Jan. 1st. New Year ^1892^—¹ Sky cleared up afternoon—No one called on us but Sol, & he brought his children in the morning to stop, Zula being in labor—She had a daughter—weighing 10 p’ds—after 8 o’clock, in an hour & a half a son weighing 11 p’ds Ellis Shipp her Dr. I went to see her & found her comfortable—babes pretty & fat—A rich New Years gift are they.—After dark we were visited by George Bourne bringing candy, cakes & nuts. Said they’d all come up Sunday. I worked though I’ve felt sick all day from...

  16. 1893: Mary . . . Gone to Chicago . . . We Can’t Afford to Go to the Saltair
    1893: Mary . . . Gone to Chicago . . . We Can’t Afford to Go to the Saltair (pp. 527-580)
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    Sunday—New Years day—¹ A quiet one as usual. Gen went to the Class & worked hard at dinner getting—afterwards—Walt here as usual. Hent & her Helen here near night. Lill not so well this morn but better afternoon—Gen read me some sermons at evening—Was to have gone to evening meeting with her but we were too late—Gen sung & played the organ—

    Mon. Jan 2. Lill so much better she did up the dishes this morning & is sewing carpet raggs & singing—Orson’s Emily & Dimps were sent over to tell me to come there & go with them...

  17. 1894: They Were the Best & Firmest in the Cause of Truth
    1894: They Were the Best & Firmest in the Cause of Truth (pp. 581-638)
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    New Years Day—1894—¹ Foggie & cold—I slept the latter part of the night, but poorly—Was awake till after the tooting & firing in the New Year—Lily was awake also. My throat & head felt better after I got up—felt pretty sick before rising—appetite poor—Polly here to day, & Dolf Whitney, wife & children visiting us. George called at eve. I wrote to Florence, & Gen also snatched a chance while the rest were playing cards & cribbage—Dolf took our letter to mail on his way home. I forgot, George & Em Pyper called presenting me with a pretty glass...

  18. 1895: She . . . Proposed to Have All Lay Hands on My Head & Rebuke My Afflictions
    1895: She . . . Proposed to Have All Lay Hands on My Head & Rebuke My Afflictions (pp. 639-687)
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    Tuesday, January 1st—1895¹ Snowed part of the day—George came in the forenoon—told us little Helen was sick all night with Neuralgie, that he was going to his fathers, & would stay home with Helen—the girls would be up by 3 or 4 o’clock. We were disapointed having expected all to come early and dine with us. We had a turkey & other good things & table set, and I’d given up their coming, when Helen, Lily, Braddie & Genevieve came—after 4 o’clock ^leaving the rest at home^—They staid till 6, & Helen played & sung a few old songs, &c....

  19. 1896: I Couldnt Talk Right—After One Word All Was Mudled
    1896: I Couldnt Talk Right—After One Word All Was Mudled (pp. 688-718)
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    Wed. New Years day—¹ Myself & family met at Orson’s—by invitation Christmas day—had a good time though I was feeling sick. George got a hack to take his family home & sent it back to take Lily & me home. Ed & Gen came home on the Car earlyer ^so^ not to keep little Florence out late—We had music and singing by Florence, Helen & Orson after dinner & recitations by his Helen, were very nice

    Thur. January 2nd. Fast-day—was late to rise—but determined to go to meeting—enjoyed it—paid my tithing & donation—day pleasent.

    Fri. 3d. Lily quite...

  20. Notes
    Notes (pp. 719-810)
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  21. Bibliography
    Bibliography (pp. 811-830)
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  22. Register of Names in the Diary
    Register of Names in the Diary (pp. 831-874)
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  23. Subject Index
    Subject Index (pp. 875-887)
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