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It's Not Your Fault!

It's Not Your Fault!: Strategies for Solving Toilet Training and Bedwetting Problems

Copyright Date: 2015
Published by: Rutgers University Press
Pages: 176
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    It's Not Your Fault!
    Book Description:

    Millions of children over the age of five wet their beds every night. Many parents think they must be doing something wrong when their five-year-old is still in diapers while their friends' children are perfectly trained by eighteen months of age. This undoubtedly is a very embarrassing and frustrating problem for both the parent and child, and can interfere with family dynamics and a child's ability to enjoy ordinary social situations.

    It's Not Your Fault!offers evidence-based strategies for parents who need assistance with toilet training and helping their child with urinary control issues. Dr. Joseph Barone, M.D., provides proven techniques that bring bedwetting to a happy conclusion. Frequently, parents are misguided by bad advice from friends, TV talk shows, the Internet, or parenting books. With many years of clinical experience, Dr. Barone shares valuable, practical information for parents to guide them through the basics of toilet training and bedwetting, and presents management plans to resolve any difficulties that occur. A comprehensive guide, this book covers everything parents need to know about normal toilet training and bedwetting, as well as step-by-step solutions based on testing and research in a real-world setting to help children suffering from delayed toilet training, bed wetting, and daytime urinary wetting.

    It's Not Your Fault!provides hope and guidance to those desperate to help their children overcome urinary control and toilet training problems. Dr. Barone sets parents on a course that makes things better for both themselves and their children.

    eISBN: 978-0-8135-6993-2
    Subjects: Public Health, Health Sciences

Table of Contents

  1. Front Matter
    (pp. i-iv)
  2. Table of Contents
    (pp. v-viii)
    (pp. ix-x)

    It’s not your fault! That is what I tell frustrated parents who visit me because they are not able to toilet train their child. In most of these cases, the parents followed well-meaning but generally bad advice they discovered in a parenting book, on the Internet, or during a popular TV talk show.

    Once, a mother of a thirteen-month-old told me that her friend, who regularly beat her at tennis, trained her perfect eleven-month-old by holding the baby over the toilet until blastoff. When the losing tennis player tried that method with her thirteen-month-old, she was crushed because that method...

    (pp. xi-xvi)
    Joseph G. Barone
    (pp. xvii-xxii)
    (pp. 1-9)

    I always was a firm believer in understanding the basics of anything we are trying to learn more about. We would not be able to bake a tasty, moist, delicious chocolate cake if we did not understand some basic units of measurements, like what a cup, pinch, or teaspoon is. Imagine how terrible a cake would taste if the recipe called for a a pinch of salt but we used a cup instead. Likewise, how could we help our child with the toilet training process if we don’t have a basic understanding of what makes toilet training possible in the...

    (pp. 10-37)

    Now that we understand the parts of your child’s urinary system that can affect successful potty training, we can begin to focus in on potty training. Potty training is a process, and it is important that your child be ready to start this process from a physical and mental point of view. In order for potty training to work, your child has to be willing to potty train, and your child has to be mature enough to potty train from a developmental standpoint.

    We talked about the different ingredients that are part of your child’s urinary system in last chapter....

    (pp. 38-57)

    “Doctor, have you ever seen a fifteen-year-old boy who still wets the bed?” That is a typical question I hear every day from frustrated parents. My usual answer is, “Yes, today I have seen a fifteen-year-old boy, two twelve-year-old girls, and several children under the age of ten, all with the same problem as your son!” Parents often do not realize that bedwetting is one of the most common of all pediatric conditions that exist in children between the ages of five and fifteen years. So take comfort, for you are not alone. No matter how old your child is,...

    (pp. 58-73)

    The next most common potty training problem, after bedwetting, is daytime wetting. Children who wet themselves during the daytime are not doing it on purpose. They are usually having these accidents because their brain has not yet gained full control over potty training. If the brain does not provide any control over potty training, a child will have daytime accidents randomly throughout the day. She isn’t having these accidents on purpose; it’s not her fault. Daytime wetting is a very frustrating potty training problem for parents and children. I hope that you can better understand why this happens after reading...

    (pp. 74-85)

    Sometimes, despite our efforts, potty training problems just won’t go away, and medications are needed. In this chapter, I talk about some of these medications, only those that I personally prescribe and trust. This discussion on medical treatments for potty training is another area that sets this book apart from other potty training books.

    There is nothing wrong with using medicine for children with urinary control problems, and it doesn’t mean that you have failed potty training. Nothing is 100 percent, and even though we may have tried our best to stop potty training problems, there are still those who...

    (pp. 86-90)

    If a potty training problem does not resolve or goes on beyond the age of seven or eight years of age, sometimes your doctor might order a test to make sure everything is okay. The good news is that potty training problems are rarely due to any type of medical problem. But, if a potty training problem does not go away after trying all of the things we discussed in this book, it is often a good idea to do some testing. This is especially true if you are thinking about starting medication. In this section we will review all...

    (pp. 91-112)

    This is a really special section of the book that I am very proud of. Over the course of my career I have had the very fortunate opportunity to work with some outstanding health professionals. They are experts in their field and can provide further insight and information about toilet training and potty problems. These experts have agreed to allow me to interview them and provide their expertise on the topics I have covered in this book.

    You will see that their recommendations are in line with what we went over in the book, but sometimes hearing it in a...

    (pp. 113-117)

    So far, we have looked at the standard ways to approach potty training problems and how effective the treatments can be. We also talked about how medications and testing could be used for those troublesome potty training problems that just will not go away. But there are also many alternative treatments, and I would like to discuss these options with you.

    I am not opposed outright to any one of these treatments I present here necessarily, but I generally do not use them for my patients because they have not been proven to be effective by scientific studies. In other...

    (pp. 118-138)

    Over the course of the last twenty years, parents have asked me all kinds of questions about toilet training and urinary leakage problems in children. I imagine that I have been asked hundreds of thousands of questions over the years. Although I can’t share each question with you—because it would take thousands of pages—I have looked over my extensive experience, and I have summarized it into twenty-five of the most common questions asked by parents.

    These questions are here to give you an easy way to get answers quickly without having to look through the entire book. They...

    (pp. 139-142)

    I hope you have enjoyed our journey to successful toilet training and dry days and nights for your child. One of the main goals of this book has been to present information that is evidence based. This means that the information that we count on in this book is based on scientific studies and not just on someone’s opinion or recommendation. It is backed by fact, and it is the best information that is available right now for your child.

    We certainly covered a lot of information that for me represents a lifetime of work and study. I hope I...

    (pp. 143-144)
    (pp. 145-148)
  18. INDEX
    (pp. 149-154)
  19. Back Matter
    (pp. 155-155)